Knowing that we can be loved exactly as we are gives us all the best opportunity for growing into the healthiest of people.

– Fred Rogers, aka “Mr. Rogers”

I’m Dommie Darko. I’m a writer living in the SF Bay Area. I’m also a polyamorous sex-positive feminist, a Dom in the local BDSM/Kink scene, a veteran of the LA punk rock scene, and a queer dude. Now that I write this, I realize that’s quite a lot of non-normative things to be.

Sometimes I get so caught up with the struggles and social quirks that come along with these identities that I forget about the weirdness of just being human. So that’s what I write about: the weirdness of just being human when you’re also PunkPolyKinkyQueer.

I often use my writing to work through  some of my own internalized shame that I feel for being weird and sexually non-normative. I try to take the things that about myself that I’m afraid other people will see (because they carry a social stigma), and turn them outward, so they can be celebrated. I’ve found that lots of other weird and sexually non-normative humans can connect with this.

My blog writing is very personal and intimate, and is often focused on my thoughts on relationships. If you want to know more about my extra-curricular activities—such as my involvement in the Punk or BDSM/Kink scene in the Bay Area, I encourage you to follow me on FacebookTwitter and Instagram.

I’m also a pervert and slut; so my blog is NSFW at least 60% of the time. You’ve been warned.


Mrs. Darko Gives Advice Pertaining to Wibbles

WIBBLE: A feeling of insecurity, typically temporary or fleeting, when seeing a partner being affectionate with someone else. Contrast compersion, frubble. Usage: Primarily British; less common outside the United Kingdom. My girlfriend was out of reach all day long. She’d been gone all day and hadn’t reached out to me once. This wasn’t typical. On top of that, she was in …