Hi. I’m Dommie Darko. Well, more accurately, “Dommie Darko” is the name I use in the SF BDSM/Kink community in order to remain relatively anonymous.
I’m a 35 year-old former academic who’s got an unhealthy obsession with zombie movies. I’m unashamedly and openly polyamorous and have multiple sexual and romantic partners. I’m not straight, but I’m still getting used to identifying as “queer.” I grew up in a very homophobic culture and calling myself “queer” just doesn’t feel right to me.
While I was in high school (in the mid-90s), I became very involved in the LA punk scene. I quickly fell in with lots of older, more intellectual punk rock folks who had been a part of the original LA punk explosion of the late-70s and early-80s, and I established friendships with members of Black Flag, The Minutemen, TSOL, The Screamers, The Descendents, The Circle Jerks and X.
My introduction to kink began roughly 8 years ago, through my then-girlfriend (now wife). Before then I was a bit sexually repressed. At home we maintain a relatively 24-7 D/s dynamic—which means she calls me “sir” when we’re not around other non-kinky people. I thought it was weird at first, but I got used to it.
In my non-PunkPolyKinkyQueer life, I work in education. Specifically, I work with low-income high school students.
Cathy, The Journalist
Cathy Reisenwitz is a San Francisco-based writer. She is Editor-in-Chief of Sex and the State and her writing has appeared in The Week, Forbes, the Chicago Tribune, The Daily Beast, VICE Motherboard, Reason magazine, Talking Points Memo and other publications. She has been quoted by the New York Times Magazine and has been a columnist at Townhall.com and Bitcoin Magazine. Her media appearances include Fox News and Al Jazeera America. She serves on the Board of Advisors for the Center for a Stateless Society.
She has spoken on topics of economic freedom, Bitcoin and feminism at SXSWi, CPAC, Georgetown University, Bitcoin in the Beltway, L2, Tea Party conferences, CryptoCurrency Conference, ISFLC, the Heritage Foundation and various other events.
When not fighting the encroaching state, she spends wayyyy too much time on Twitter and reads a lotta blogs, mostly on feminism, tech, pop culture, and politics. And she lifts heavy, bro.